If you’re in a sex rut, trying new sex positions can be the spark you need. Not only are they erotic, but some new positions can give you different types of pleasure and may stimulate clitoral stimulation.
Try cowgirl, for example. In this position, the woman enters from behind you (like the spooning cuddle position), allowing her to envelop your penis deeply while restricting your ability to thrust.
If you’re the kind of couple who loves to take risks and push their limits physically, then having a few more adventurous sex positions in your repertoire can help you go from vanilla ice cream to lava cake between the sheets. The more you and your partner know about sex, the more you can tailor it to your specific pleasures, making for a thrilling experience each time.
Try this acrobatic variation on missionary — the woman lies on her back with her legs spread slightly and her hands resting in front of her body, while the penetrating partner bends at the knees, gets on top, and enters from behind. It’s a great position for vaginal, clitoral, and perineal stimulation. For a truly wild ride, add some restraint play to the mix for even more ecstasy and intensity. Definitely use plenty of lube, though, to keep the pain to a minimum.
For those who prefer to go slow and focus on intimate sensations, positions like the lotus sex position (also known as yab-yum) may be worth trying. In this yoga-inspired position, the partner being penetrated lies on their back with their legs spread in a butterfly position and the penetrating partner straddles them and wraps their leg around their back to enter.
This unique angle of entry can offer new pleasure potential, including a tighter clitoral stimulation and more skin-to-skin contact that can increase feelings of closeness. It also offers the potential for deeper penetration than missionary position and allows for more eye contact, if desired.
If you and your partner have been sticking to the same few sex positions, it’s time to switch things up. Try more adventurous sex positions like the helicopter, amazon, or wheelbarrow and you might find that they give you more excitement, orgasms, and longer climaxes than your usual favorites. And don’t be afraid to try standing sex positions, such as the ballet dancer or from-behind entry.
One of the most important things to keep in mind when trying new sex positions is that different areas of the body are more or less sensitive than others. The clitoris is one area that many people find can be stimulated in a variety of ways and that can trigger sexual pleasure and orgasms.
For example, a reclined butterfly position is an excellent option for clitoral stimulation. The receiving partner lies back, puts their feet together and knees apart, and the penetrating partner gets on top, facing them and enters. Padjen says it’s similar to the legs up missionary position, but gives a more intimate feel and access to the clitoris.
Another option is the face sitting sex position, which allows for direct oral sex, clitoral stimulation and control of penetration depth. The receiving partner can also use their hands to caress their partners body and give them additional pleasure. Adding pressure to this position by rubbing, pushing, stroking or grinding and switching up the direction of stimulation is another great way to increase pleasure and orgasm.
Mixing It Up
For couples who want a little more spice in the bedroom, mixing up positions can keep things fresh. Try adding a little restraint play, which can increase the sensation and intensity. For example, if you’re in the mood for a bit of oral sex, have him lean over her shoulder as you’re both bent up into a football-like position called the fumbler.
Or, try a face-off, which is similar to missionary but allows for more intimacy since you’re both looking at each other. This sexy variation also provides the potential for deeper penetration than missionary and can be done on any surface like a bed, sofa, or countertop, says Zar.
A fun alternative to spooning is froggie style, which involves her lying on her back with her legs draped over your hips and her clitoris exposed. This position can be adapted to anal sex for more intimate exploration and is even more pleasurable with lots of lube.